At 23 years old, Pam lost all of her hair, eyelashes and eyebrows. She first noticed the bald spot in a photograph when she was 21 and had just brought her newborn daughter home from the hospital. It was so obvious, she recalls now, but chalked it up to pregnancy hormones. Over the next couple of years, she saw so many doctors, everyone said not to worry — until finally, she was diagnosed with the autoimmune disease, Alopecia. Pam confesses that losing your hair as a woman is particularly devastating. But, she is strong — she wants everyone to know that, “Misfortunes don’t have to kill your spirit.” And, she believes, “It may not be what you want, but your purpose is divinely defined .”
Pam has always worn a wig and false lashes and learned how to expertly apply her make-up. Most people didn’t even know she was bald. But she suffered from extreme social anxiety — worrying whether others could tell she was wearing a wig, or that she had fake eyelashes — worrying that all eyes were on her every, single time she entered a room. During the past two years, however, she decided to be open about her condition to be impactful, motivate others and advocate for the disease. She began to truly embrace who she is, and what she was given, and be what “God has called her to be.” She is motivated to empower women to be comfortable in their own skin, just the way they are.
Because she has worn a wig now for so many years, and owns more than one, she considers herself a wig connoisseur — knowing what will look good on her and what won’t. Her now grown daughter, Sydney, has suggested she start her own wig line or maybe become a wig model!
Just this past year, Pam (who is a single mother) was on vacation with Sydney and her teenage son, Ethan, when she got what she thought was a migraine that wouldn’t go away. As it turned out, she had a rare, life-threatening brain abscess. She had an emergency craniotomy that was followed by 3 months of in-home nursing care after being released from ICU. She was uninsured when she went into the hospital and subsequently accrued a great deal of financial hardship. But, Pam feels blessed that with the help of a brain injury foundation, and her faith in God, she will rise above this as well.
She works hard as a dental hygienist three days a week. A job she loves. She works with the general population but also works with many Special Needs patients (autistic and otherwise). She is grateful for all the loving care she is able to give to them. “Every day is rewarding,” Pam says….”They give way more to me than I could ever give back to them.”
Pam wants to impact other women with her story and sees that as her new purpose. She has found this purpose by what she’s endured through illness…and she hopes that being a Heartfelt Role Model will be an incredible opportunity to do just that. She currently does some motivational speaking through church events and says she, “feels more herself when helping other people.”
Pam has watched QVC most of her life — even as a young girl because her mother loved it so. About five years ago, she took a little break from QVC and missed it. The night she tuned back in for the first time was the night of a Laurie Felt – Los Angeles show. She heard Laurie mention Heartfelt and Pam immediately joined. She believes this was the validation she needed to continue on her journey to motivate and inspire other women.
Welcome, Pam. We have no doubt that you will definitely make an impact here.